Regret, Resistance and Focus

For the past few weeks, I have been exploring a lot of written stuff related to Regret, Resistance and Focus. I have also, therefore, been thinking about it. Why these three emotions/behavioral responses? Because its these three which cause me much stress and prevent me from becoming my best or at least a better version of me.

1. Resistance – Steven Pressfield highlighted the term resistance caused by a fear or self doubt to attain that which we have dreamt of. This resistance results in a shrinking from doing the work, in making excuses, in running away. And that is the biggest brick wall I face personally on a day to day basis. The lack of motivation and an abundance of resistance to do that which I love and desire to do conceptually!

2. Regret: Resistance begets regret. When I fail to do a thing, I regret not having done it. As simple as that. All cause of misery starts with the the though ‘if only I had…’ and resistance causes me to not do stuff which end up being translated into regrets

3. Focus: I think that for me, resistance comes up when I lose focus. I tend to do 20 things at a time and this has me running from one to another where, in the end, I savor nothing and am left bitter. I am dissatisfied at not having anything done properly!



Incentives and Free Will

So, the first questions is : Is there free will? If there is, how are incentives fashioned to modify it and bend it according to the structural organizations that we have in place?

More on this thought later but it seems very interesting to me!

Our colonial mentality

When Professor Raghuram Rajan said that we Indians are still living with a colonial mentality, he was right. He hit the nail right on its head. He said that we were aslways reactive to the world situations rather than being the frontrunners in providing solutions. We were always looking out for what others are doing rather than providing original thoughts from our angle. Being home to nearly 20% of the world population, being one of the fastest growing countries in the world and being home to the youngest aspirational population, we have a unique perspective towrads many of the world problems. Prof. Rajan pointed out that our academicians are not doing enough to study the local dynamics in the larger global context and this puts us behind on the table where world dialogs take place.

I feel that’s 100% true. Although there is a growing conversation about India all aorund, most of it comes from an outside perspective which tends to paint the picture as either too rosy or too bleak. The ground realities could probably be best assessed by people who are on the ground and seeing things firsthand. We need to develop high intensity indigenous intellectual dialogues about where we have been, where we are and where we are headed. Doing this ground work would not only help us to get out of the colonial mentality that we seem to be trapped in, but also enable us to be more participative on the global front as a unique, forceful and original voice.

More on this later